Contemplations of friends, colleagues and associates of my past. During contemplation I went to the dictionary.
I was surprised to find that an apology has a second definition of “an admission of error or discourtesy accompanied by an expression of regret.” The first definition is” a formal justification, an excuse or a defense.”
That is not how I had originally integrated the meaning of the action of making an apology. It was my understanding that it is realizing an error has been made and that there is some pang or a stitch , then expressing a request for pardon for the error or having caused dismay. And then work toward making it right. I give credit to those who are mature enough to at least make the effort to have a phone conversation to make it right.
After looking in a few other online dictionaries I found that the definition changes from author to author or dictionary to dictionary. Real life circumstances have shown that the excuse is what is offered instead of having the compunction and courage to simply admit the discourtesy.
In most cases it is unfortunate that no apology is offered. It seems using the excuse is more popularly given via written terse email using the missing man technique – if the blame or lack of accountability is present then the so called apologizer can stick with excuses.
Simple avoidance has been the preponderance over the years – except with my sacred circle. Is it better to simply avoid a good friend or colleague because a major error of ways has occurred or is it better to just buck up and have a conversation? Avoidance has been the most popular and when the person appears again in one’s life, there is the appearance as if nothing occurred and because time has passed there is no need to make any type of communication to apologize. (in this case I am referring to the admission of error and expression of regret.)
I mention the sacred circle and that is my sacred circle of friends. We find ways to make it right through conversation, time spent together – or loud discussion followed by laughter and tears together. These are the friends who last through much adversity and are the real deal filled with integrity, transparency and true love.
So this is where emotional maturity comes to the forefront. First, we need to remember to step out of needing an apology. Recognize which friends and colleagues come from a place of ethics and integrity and stick to those good buddies. Honor the experience of the other “friendships” and move on little doggie . . . keep moving with love, grace and a bit more wisdom.
Hyacinth is pictured above left – for I’m sorry.
Violet is pictured lower left – for I forgive you.
Ho’oponopono I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.
I signed 130 copies of my newest book, The Essential Guide to Crystals, Minerals and Stones (Llewellyn Worldwide) for book sellers yesterday at INATS in Denver. Here is photo blog for you.
I am grateful to all the book stores and rock dealers around the world who will be selling many copies of this book!!
Ruby in zoisite amplifies the love you give to others. Haven’t you found that there are some days that you feel more loving then others? Grab a piece of ruby in zoisite to help you when you are feeling less than lovey! It aligns you with your sacred heart and the sacred heart of all beings. After all, we are all one so the more caring and compassion you feel in general affect so many. Your heartfelt love reaches all the corners of the earth.
Ruby in zoisite is a good stone to send healing vibrations to areas where the people and the earth have experienced suffering or disaster. Whether is a from weather, an accident, or health issues, with this stone in hand, amplify your loving prayers and focused intentions to contribute to world peace and peace within your own community.
Ruby in zoisite helps you shift your perceptions so you can see everything through the eyes of love. WOW! Imagine what a world we can have if we all shifted our intention to being in a loving vibration at all times. OK, I know we are human but we sure can give it a try. I believe in the magic of love, caring compassion and kindness. When we focus on love there is no lack or competition, there is no need to be unethical or stingy. There is abundance and joy with true caring and compassion.
With this stone in hand, silence your thoughts and look within your heart. If you are really disciplined, this stone will help you to gain clarity on all that you want to know. It also helps you bring your thoughts to the forefront of your awareness and place them in your heart before you make a decision.
Bio: Margaret Ann Lembo is the author of Color Your Life with Crystals, Angel Gemstone Oracle Cards; Chakra Awakening; and The Essential Guide to Crystals, Minerals and Stones. She is a spiritual entrepreneur and practitioner, aromatherapist, and the owner of The Crystal Garden—a book store, gift store, and spiritual center. www.MargaretAnnLembo.com Join her on Facebook.com/MargaretAnnLemboPage
Have you been compartmentalizing your feelings and thoughts? If so, it is probably time to delve into your consciousness. It helps to quiet your mind through meditation or contemplation. This offers the opportunity for you to uncover and release emotions that have been bubbling beneath the surface. As they arise, you can proceed toward emotional healing and discontinue unwanted repetitive patterns in your relationships. When we heal old wounds on all levels we can venture out into the world once again and create loving supportive relationships.
Septarian is a variety of concretion composed of several minerals and is a perfect ally to assist you in your endeavors to move forward with confidence. It is a stone that is helpful for the root, navel and solar plexus chakras.
The yellow calcite energy in septarian helps you uncover and clear away outdated belief systems attached to old memories and other thoughtforms, or mental energy, that have accumulated over time in your mind. With this stone in hand, you can begin to reduce their unwanted effects on how you act and react to life circumstances.
In fact, you can use septarian to connect you with the contracts you made with your ancestors. Yes, we make all kinds of “agreements” and once you know what you have agreed to, you can work toward completing the contract, release it and move on. It is also a good stone to assist you when you meditate and/or engage in past-life or this life regression to uncover information that can benefit your present life.
Gaze at septarian or hold it in your hand and use this GemSpot Affirmation:
My personal power is completely intact. I am balanced, aligned, and connected with my magnificence. I recognize my self-worth, which has been deeply instilled in my consciousness by the Divine.
Lilac has been greeting me daily on my little walks here in Andover, MA. I took a few photos of the flowers who greeted me on my way in the early morning on my way to the lobby of the hotel. I’m on National Book Tour and I am determined to keep and enhance my health this trip. Every year I find a new way to improve the Book Tour experience.
This year, along with my early morning visit to the gym, I decided to photograph flowers and plants. Living in the tropics is a wonderful thing, yet the flora is specific for zone 9 and 10. Being in New England offers me a chance to reconnect with old friends – the flowers and plants of my youth. (I was born and raised in Brooklyn. Yes, many trees grown in Brooklyn and Mom was an avid gardener. She is the one who taught me to communicate with plants.)
Lilac (Syringa) is the harbinger of spring signaling new life. Lilac is in the east doorway of the Medicine Wheel – the place of new beginnings. All flowers bring messages and the meaning of the purple lilac is “first emotions of love” and white lilac is “youthful innocence.”
The idea that flowers have a meaning was probably first introduced around the early 1600 in Hamlet making reference that rosemary is for memory. And, from an aroma-therapeutic view, rosemary does enhance your ability to retain information and recall it when needed. It happens to be the perfect study aid. In Europe from in the mid-1600’s through 1800’s) is was popular to know and use the meaning of flowers as a language, for communication. The classic book, Le Langage des Fleurs (“The Language of Flowers”, 1819,) was popular and the idea eventually spread worldwide.
Lilac oil is available yet typically a blend of oils to duplicate the scent. As long as the oils are medical grade, you have a good chance of aligning with the essential oil for the purposes of expanding love in your life and increasing your awareness of the blessings of new beginnings.
Note: the reference to the meaning of lilac is from The Language of Flowers by Charlotte de Latour
There are those days when everything becomes crystal clear. Can you achieve clarity because you hold this rock or that stone? Do rocks in your pockets resolve your life challenges? Nope – you won’t hear me, the author of multiple books on gemstones, tell you that holding a rock is going to resolve all life’s issues.
I will say, though, that you can make it your intention to gain clarity, understanding and a greater perspective to laser in on how to achieve your goals and intentions through the use of a crystal, a mineral or a rock. It is not the gemstone that brings on the clarity. It is your intention. Use clear quartz, for example, to see a situation clearly. Keep a cluster or a large generator point on your desk. Set an intention that every time you catch a glimpse of the stone, mindfully or unconsciously, it will trigger a part of your consciousness so it remembers that you are gaining clarity in your life and various life challenges.
Clear quartz reflects the full spectrum of light. In essence, it has all the colors of the rainbow and is known for its ability to help one tune into various frequencies and vibrations. Yes . . . perhaps that sounds a bit wild, but even our first radios contained clear quartz crystal to assure that the radio would tune in to the channel and pick up the transmission clearly. Translate that into seeing yourself as a radio that transmits and receives transmissions. Use your clear quartz to assure that you are receiving clear messages and be mindful of your thoughts because those thoughts are broadcasts.
Whether it is on your desk, in your pocket, on your dashboard in your car, or next to your computer . . . set your intention for why you have that clear quartz crystal as your gemstone guardian and watch your life transform. And, will you wonder? Is it you or the rock? It is you that creates your reality. Let the tool of the crystal help you relax into your ability to align with higher consciousness and know what you need to know!
Margaret Ann Lembo is an author, speaker, wholesale and retail business owner of The Crystal Garden, and a spiritual teacher at her own Center that offers events each month. She is getting ready to relaunch her own radio show. Whether it is through the knowledge imparted in her book, or through her line of products, she can help bring balance to anyone’s daily life. For more than twenty years she has led workshops and classes around the country, and her audio CD’s are distributed internationally. For more information, visit her informative websites at: www.margaretannlembo.com and www.thecrystalgarden.com.
Some of you know that I love to interact on Facebook. I like it for personal fun, mindless activity, mindful contemplation, promotion and publicity. And, of course, I like it to stay connected with friends and fans I’ve met on my Book Tours and throughout my life.
One of the most inspiring things about Facebook is the quotes. Those quotes that are in graphic formats are so thought provoking and fabulous reminders that we use to help ourselves and our “friends” on Facebook.
Today, this quote appeared in my news feed.
It is a perfect for me and my life because I’m a go-getter. I get an idea and I create it and make it happen . . . especially if I feel it could help someone else on the planet. It’s part of my nature to give love, share what I’ve learned and in the process I have created my various businesses. I like to live life in a large and in a happy way. I like to encourage and share my ability to manifest with others who have similar talents.
Along the way over the years, there are people who are angered or personally challenged by my vivacious activity of not only shining my light but sharing my light. Even in those situations where I have opened the door to invite a good friend or colleague on the “Margaret Ann train” to success, some have chosen to pass on the entrance . . . which is never a problem. The challenge comes when they become jealous or they realize they sort of want to participate but they ultimately don’t want to work that hard or give up their personal time. Sometimes, it is for other reasons that are buried deep within their consciousness. The only part that saddens me is when they make the decision to not participate into a controversy instead of just gracefully bowing out or acting like a true friend/adult and communicate in a healthy way.
Whenever this happens, I pray for their happiness and I turn to Marianne Williamson’s quote from her book, A Return to Love.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
May you also be inspired by this so you can shine on!!
Now that spring has sprung it is time to clear out the energy and dust of winter. Why not use the aromatic gifts of essential oils to spruce up your environment? In fact, you can use spruce in your synergistic formula to clean your floors, counters, and the stale energy in your home.
Cleaning and clearing out the old is useful on many levels. Physically a clean environment is always welcome. With a bit of intention and the organic constituents of essential oils, you can also clear your home of mental, emotional, and spiritual debris.
Key Points to Get You Started
- Essential Oils are concentrated with hundreds of organic constituents including hormones and vitamins
- Not all essential oils are created equally. Pure grade also known as medical grade oils are pure. They do not contain any synthetic or adulterations. Aromatherapy Grade are adulterated with non-natural components. Commercial Grade are distilled or have components added or removed
- A synergy is the term used for the blending of oils which is a recipe or a formula with a specific intention.
- Just because something has the word aromatherapy does not mean that it is made with Pure Grade oils.
Blending essential oils with a specific intention and outcome is a bit like cooking. The chemical components of real medical grade oils promise to cleanse, purify, disinfect as well as uplift, bring joy, and mental clarity – depending on the blend of oils you choose, of course.
It’s Time to Have Fun!
Blending essential oils can be fun and make your environments smell and feel good as you accomplish cleaning your space and your body!
To freshen the air place 3 – 7 drops of lavender and lemon into a tea light diffusers, a stove top pot of water, your humidifier or dehumidifier, or electric diffuser.
I’ve personally have created a whole line of sprays and mists for body, mind and spirit and you can, too. My first blend was created to relieve symptoms of a respiratory challenge that lingered on and then I created one for PMS and menopause. Once I realized how effective essential oils are on all levels, I continued to blend and make fabulous concoctions. It became such a passion and became a big part of my career.
I encourage you to make your own blends. Using a 2 oz spray bottle, fill it with water leaving a bit of room on the top for 3 ml of your special blend. Here are ideas for you to combine in your special mist:
- Stress relief – Clary sage (1), lavender (2), and spikenard (.25).
- Sleepy time – Chamomile (1) , eucalyptus (3) , and lavender (1).
- Allergy and cold symptom relief – eucalyptus (2), lemon (1), and ravensara (2).
- Negative energy dissipater – Cedar (.50), sage (3) and spruce (.50).
Create your own kitchen or bath cleanser to add to the water for the floors, counters and pesky insects.
- Floors – lavender, lemon, orange, pine and spruce.
- Kitchen Counters – lemon, lavender, orange, peppermint.
- Insect Repellent – eucalyptus, lemongrass, and lavender
Treat yourself to a delicious blend for your self-care. Body Lotion can easily be created by adding drops of your favorite essential oils to unscented lotion. Avoid lotions with mineral oil or paraffin waxes. Avoid citrus oils as they cause a phototoxic experience when exposed to sunlight. Place some drops of essential oils into your tub just before you step into your bath.
Do Your Research
I recommend that you always take the time to look up the indications and contraindications of all essential oils before you use them. Some essential oils lower your blood pressure or raise it. Some will cause drowsiness. Some are not to be used on children or pregnant mothers.
Enjoy, tinker, and experiment with these delights from nature. I love hearing your stories so tell me how it goes and what works for you. Plants, barks, roots, and flowers have delicious gifts to treat us on all levels. Use essential oils and take note of how your life, your home, and your overall experience here on the earth transforms into a much happier reality!
Bio: Margaret Ann Lembo is the award winning author of Chakra Awakening: Transform Your Reality Using Crystals, Color, Aromatherapy and the Power of Positive Thought; The Essential Guide to Crystals, Minerals and Stones; Color Your Life with Crystals, and the Angel Gemstone Oracle Cards. She is a spiritual entrepreneur and practitioner, aromatherapist, and the owner of The Crystal Garden—a book store, gift store, and spiritual center. www.MargaretAnnLembo.com
“The purple vibration has powerful transformative qualities. To use this vibration in changing unwanted situations, imagine yourself surrounded by a vibrating, glowing bubble of violet light emanating from the stone. As you imagine this, know that all that you are upset about or challenged by is currently being transformed and transmuted into something powerful. Imagine the situation changing to what you do want versus how it currently is. The vibration of your imagination of how you want your life to be combined with the violet light will effectuate change.”
Excerpt from The Essential Guide to Crystals, Minerals and Stones
Using the color purple in gemstones, clothing, or object d’art offer you aid when you are trying to keep your mind focused on the situations you are in the process of transforming. Purple stones like amethyst, charoite and sugilite are great to use in jewelry or as a “no worries” stone. (I prefer to change the worry stone concept to a no worries thought!)
“Amethyst helps with dreaming good dreams and preventing nightmares. It is good to help you feel safe as you fall asleep at night.
Amethyst is also good to help you with your imagination. Your imagination is a very good thing. Use it to create reality and dream big! Whatever you focus on, ardently desire and work diligently toward will happen.
Amethyst Affirmation: I see, sense, feel and know life is magical. I dream pleasant dreams. I release all habits no longer for my highest good. I have a great connection with my spirit guides and angels. I am very intuitive and I trust my feelings.”
Chakra: Third Eye and Crown
We are all responsible for our great Mother Earth. We are each individually responsible and accountable for how we treat the planet. From the simply reduction of waste to the easy ability to compost, there are many methods for making sure that we leave the planet a better place than when we arrived here. Take a moment to observe your own actions or lack of action regarding recycling and reusing.
There are gemstones that can help us be mindful of our personal responsibility for Mother Earth. Here are two excerpts from The Essential Guide to Crystals, Minerals and Stones.
“Brown agate is a perfect stone for connecting with the elemental spirits, devic forces, and the fairy kingdom. The plant and other earth spirits are aligned with this stone. With it, you can tap into the wisdom of the earth stewards. This stone opens up the “trap doors” on the soles of your feet, grounding you so that you can communicate with the nature spirits.”
“Chlorite phantom quartz holds the vibration of nature. Just as you would use chlorophyll-rich green drinks and foods to cleanse and detoxify your body, the same is true with cleansing your aura or energy field by using this stone. The spiritual wisdom of the plant kingdom and the devic forces of the plants can be accessed by working with this quartz. It opens a doorway so you can meet and greet the world of fairies, gnomes, and elves.”
Here are some good thoughts for you to think about to help you with being mindful of personal responsibility for the care of the Great Mother Earth.
GemSpot Affirmation: I am a steward of the Earth, gratefully serving Mother Nature with my actions. It is easy for me to “think green.” I reduce the amount of waste produced in my household. I reuse and recycle everything that I can, and I make an effort to leave a place in better condition than before I’d arrived.